Whenever one hears the term ‘fairy tale’ one expects a nice goody goody story with a happy ending. Though most of the popular fairy tales abide by the happily ever after ending the same cannot be said about the overall content which in many ways is not suitable for the age groups that these stories… Continue reading 5 wrongs in kids fairy tales
When I was a kid, I totally enjoyed reading Enid Blyton books. As I grew older, I heard people criticizing them for being sexist and stereotyping girls. I used to wonder what the fuss was about. Today some 20 odd years on as I read out an Enid Blyton story to my daughter, I do… Continue reading Grooming Daughters To be Good Women..
This post is being written for #MomsforaBetterWorld Project for women’s web What is the one lesson I would like to teach my child? I think it would be treating women equally. No matter if you’re a boy or girl you need to learn to treat women equally and to not accept second grade treatment. More often… Continue reading Moms for a better world..
For instance her home is expected to be spick and span all the time. So what is the kid is throwing toys around the house at all times and the husband is too lazy to put his stuff in place? She is expected to clean after them.
And her kids are supposed to be well-behaved at all times. In the case of a working mom it is alright if the kids are not on their best behavior or don’t do that well in studies. After all their mother is working so they get that extra leeway. But a a stay-at-home mum is not given such allowance. One instance of bad behavior by the kid or one academic failure and she is instantly crucified for negligence. Does anyone realize what tremendous pressure this is?
She is not expected to require any domestic help. After all she has the entire day to do the household chores. But a poor working woman already has too much to do at her workplace, so she cannot be burdened further with mundane tasks so in her case hiring domestic help is perfectly justified.
If a stay-at-home mum is seen laughing and gossiping with her girl gang she is immediately criticized. Oh these housewives have nothing else to do the whole day than gossip about clothes and jewelry is what we hear. However it is perfectly okay for working women to have long coffee sessions with her friends in office. After all she needs a break from her stressful work. Come on people, give the poor woman a break, a stay-at-home mum is entitled to a change from routine work as much as a working mum.
A stay-at-home mum is expected to be an excellent cook. If a working mom messes up a meal well so what? She probably has other important stuff to do than practice cooking. But a stay-at-home mum has all day to hone her cooking skills. So there is no excuse or scope for error. One badly cooked meal and people are ready to pounce on her and tear her self confidence to pieces.
Isn’t it an unfair expectation from any person not just a stay-at-home mum to never err?
I am ashamed to say that when I was working full-time, I felt the same way. However being a stay-at-home mum for the past 2 years has given me a whole new perspective and I realize how wrong I was. Being a stay-at-home mum is a most challenging and underrated job. I’m not saying life is a bed of roses for a working mom but to be biased and judge someone simply on the basis of whether they are working or not is grossly unfair. It just results in undue pressure.
So next time you think it is all play and no work for a stay-at-home mum, just remember that she has her own challenges which as as stressful as those of a working mom if not more. She is extremely fatigued of people peeking into her life and being critical of every aspect of it. So just respect her decision of being a stay-at-home mum and let her be.
When we were at my first job, me and my girl gang had created some ‘womanly woman’ rules. We were fresh out of college and did not have a care about the world. We loved a good laugh. What’s a ‘womanly woman’ you wonder? Well , read the following rules and you will know for yourself.… Continue reading Womanly women
Inspired by my childhood poems, decided to write one…Am I a bad mother if Sometimes I feel like completing a meal in one go? Or feel like watching an undisturbed round of my favorite TV show? Sometimes I feel like spending exclusive time with hubby Maybe a candle light dinner or simply watching a movie ?… Continue reading Am I a bad mother?
This post is also published on http://www.womensweb.in at 5-things-about-daily-soaps-that-completely-baffle-me/1. Large extended super rich families all living in peace and harmony This is a sure shot formula for success. Normal nuclear middle-class families where both partners work in a bid to catch up with inflation, pay huge EMIs and try to strike a balance between work life and kids… Continue reading 5 must haves for a successful daily soap