Every decade has its own set of technological advances as did the nineties. When I look back I cant help but be amused at how awestruck we were of the very same technologies that are so obsolete now. As I take a trip down the memory lane, I hope many of you will share my… Continue reading 5 pieces of technology that every 90s teenager can relate to…
It was but yesterday,that I held a tiny bundle in my arms She stared at me looking so pretty,turning up the charm So helpless she looked, I made a pact No matter what, I would always protect Little did I know, what challenges lay ahead, By the innocent face, I was totally misled Days passed… Continue reading My Bird Is Ready To Fly…
This post is being written for #MomsforaBetterWorld Project for women’s web What is the one lesson I would like to teach my child? I think it would be treating women equally. No matter if you’re a boy or girl you need to learn to treat women equally and to not accept second grade treatment. More often… Continue reading Moms for a better world..
If only we had the courage to confront our fears. If only we stopped fearing the consequences of our actions. If only we were able to silence our doubts. If only….. A lot of “If onlys” but no answers. Yes its true.Many times we give in to our fears. We give our problems a lot… Continue reading If only…..
Let me tell you a story,The story of my life,How I evolved from an electronic gadget,To an integral part of your life. I made a very humble start,For calling and texting I was devised,There was no chatting or emailing ,Very basic needs I sufficed. And then my future generations evolved,More trendy, sophisticated and stylish,With loads… Continue reading Voice of a smart phone
Poem reliving memories of my childhood days……… Wonderful were those days when we were youngWithout a care about the world Life could never go wrong. Living in our childhood home, Feeling safe and protected Ignorant about life’s harsh realities,A happy and carefree life we led. Dad shielded us from the big bad world,Mum wiped away… Continue reading Childhood days…
For instance her home is expected to be spick and span all the time. So what is the kid is throwing toys around the house at all times and the husband is too lazy to put his stuff in place? She is expected to clean after them.
And her kids are supposed to be well-behaved at all times. In the case of a working mom it is alright if the kids are not on their best behavior or don’t do that well in studies. After all their mother is working so they get that extra leeway. But a a stay-at-home mum is not given such allowance. One instance of bad behavior by the kid or one academic failure and she is instantly crucified for negligence. Does anyone realize what tremendous pressure this is?
She is not expected to require any domestic help. After all she has the entire day to do the household chores. But a poor working woman already has too much to do at her workplace, so she cannot be burdened further with mundane tasks so in her case hiring domestic help is perfectly justified.
If a stay-at-home mum is seen laughing and gossiping with her girl gang she is immediately criticized. Oh these housewives have nothing else to do the whole day than gossip about clothes and jewelry is what we hear. However it is perfectly okay for working women to have long coffee sessions with her friends in office. After all she needs a break from her stressful work. Come on people, give the poor woman a break, a stay-at-home mum is entitled to a change from routine work as much as a working mum.
A stay-at-home mum is expected to be an excellent cook. If a working mom messes up a meal well so what? She probably has other important stuff to do than practice cooking. But a stay-at-home mum has all day to hone her cooking skills. So there is no excuse or scope for error. One badly cooked meal and people are ready to pounce on her and tear her self confidence to pieces.
Isn’t it an unfair expectation from any person not just a stay-at-home mum to never err?
I am ashamed to say that when I was working full-time, I felt the same way. However being a stay-at-home mum for the past 2 years has given me a whole new perspective and I realize how wrong I was. Being a stay-at-home mum is a most challenging and underrated job. I’m not saying life is a bed of roses for a working mom but to be biased and judge someone simply on the basis of whether they are working or not is grossly unfair. It just results in undue pressure.
So next time you think it is all play and no work for a stay-at-home mum, just remember that she has her own challenges which as as stressful as those of a working mom if not more. She is extremely fatigued of people peeking into her life and being critical of every aspect of it. So just respect her decision of being a stay-at-home mum and let her be.